Lost and Found

I believe, people can't give what they don't know, understand, or have never experienced. But we have all experienced some type of loss. We lose jobs, friends, family, pets, money and material things.

Sometimes, we lose ourselves in grief and self-pity that the person/thing we loved most is one day gone. Just like that no warning, or maybe the signs were always there, but we stay stuck rooted in the foundation of our beliefs, because the fear of being lost and alone scares us more than letting go and finding something that serves our highest good.

Sometimes, we lose things because we aren't supposed to have it in the first place. It is either no good for us, or it brings out the worst in us. And sometimes, we hold on to someone/thing too tightly thinking it belongs to us, when in reality it was never ours to keep; a temporary gift we are given so that we can experience joy.

Now, I know I put that in a safe place and forgot about it, but where the hell did it go? Have you put yourself in a safe place? One of isolation because you loved someone/thing so much and now it is gone. I still can't find it, but I think I may have made a discovery about loss and love.

Sometimes, it is necessary to lose or set someone/thing free and when you do it with forgiveness, love replaces grief/loss and it comes back to stay for good in a much healthier and better way. And sometimes you may feel lost yourself, as if standing at an impasse between instinct and faith (based on those foundations) just waiting to be found.

Sometimes, the best thing you can do is stop and take a moment, brush off your internal compass and let those old foundations fall to find yourself. You will be glad that you did, because once you find yourself nothing will ever feel like a loss again and everything that is meant to bring you happiness will be found.

Welcome home.

Today, I dedicate this blog to Patty Mulvehill, author of "Lost Loved Ones" and as my stepmother, she deserves to be recognized as one of the most important co-authors of my life's story. It is not my intention to review her work (unless requested), as I too was an important character in her story.

She and I brought together by one man that we both loved and lost. I cannot speak for another, but what I believe we both found is a much better understanding of who we were and who he was in our lives and a gratitude for things that have since been found through love and forgiveness.

My dad was a complicated man with an even more complicated past. We all start somewhere, and today it is my pleasure to bring that story to you, the reader. My dad left behind secrets that may or may not one day resurface, but I will be ready for it.

And to all of the extended family Patty and I gained, we are so happy you thought you were lost, because you found us and we are here to keep your story alive. Bob may be lost to us, but we are not lost to you. By blood or chosen, family will always be family. I love you all, through time and distance.

And to all of you that I have loved outside of family and lost, I hope you found what you're looking for.

Until next time,

Tina M

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Be sure to check back soon as Patty's book will be available here at inRhymes.com for a limited time. Maybe even signed copies, I do know the author. (I love you).